Should a Christian date or marry a Non-Christian?

– Well I was always told an explicit “no” on that, based in particular on 2 Corinthians 6, and in verse 14 Paul says to not be “unequally yoked with an unbeliever, for what partnership “does righteousness have with lawlessness?” So I grew up thinking that the apostle Paul

Was talking about dating when he used this metaphor of the yoke, being joined to someone, so that the direction one goes, the direction the other one goes. And so I only have since learned that Paul actually is not talking about dating and marriage relationships explicitly there;

He is rather talking about who the Corinthian believers were going to yoke themselves to, were going to join themselves to, between the false apostles and Paul himself. And so these false apostles, they came with a message that had a lot of Gospel elements to it,

But it wasn’t the full Gospel, it was some other message that appealed to the believers in various ways, by flattering them, by the apostles themselves acting like they were superior because of their more evident gifting. They tried to present that as evidence to these Corinthians

That God was with them, and then they pointed at Paul and said look how weak he is, look how nothing he is. Look at all the things he says that seem so impressive but actually when he shows up, he’s not that impressive. And so they used that as evidence

That God was not with Paul. Now, I think the answer to the question should a Christian date or marry an unbeliever, the answer’s no. And I think I would actually use this same verse. A verse that’s not explicitly about dating actually gives us a very important principle that we then

Apply to all of our relationships including dating. And that is, this principle that we all have this tendency to join ourselves to what appears to be the most impressive according to standards that may or may not line up with God’s. And so really, Paul’s instruction here

Is an appeal to the believers to be impressed with what God’s impressed with, to value what God values, and then to make your decisions relationally based upon those. So that has everything to do with dating. What we love, what we join ourselves to, we will be like.

And so when we apply that to dating and eventual marriage, what that person you’re dating loves will shape what you love. And if that person does not love God, it will absolutely shape and influence your ability to love God as well. So what they do positively love

You will be more compelled to love and so it’s a stewardship of your heart to assess the people around you that are options for marriage, to assess them according to God’s values, what God says is most important, what God says is most true, what God says is most life-giving,

And not to listen to what the world says is most valuable or most life-giving. And Paul knew this. And so Paul was trying to say to them their “love” for you is a self-serving version of love, where they’re using you in order to create a greater platform of influence for themselves, whereas,

And this is what the entire book of 2 Corinthians is about, whereas I have suffered for you, I have taken on loss in order for me to be able to build you up in Christ; that is the definition of love. So real love has at its purpose the building of that in someone.

And so what exists in a dating and moving towards marriage relationship between a believer and an unbeliever is that one of the core purposes of love just simply can’t be. And so, this is why I think Paul, we can construct a very compelling argument from a lot of what Paul says,

And a lot of what the rest of Scripture says, why a believer should not be dating an unbeliever. We haven’t made a distinction yet between dating and marriage, because I’m seeing dating as the purpose of moving towards marriage. The reason I do that, and I don’t just have

Dating as its own separate fun thing to do that doesn’t involve marriage, is I don’t think the Bible gives us a category for romantic connection, increasing self-disclosure and intimacy merely for the purpose of enjoyment or pleasure. It’s always for the establishment of this permanent relationship when it’s between a man and a woman.

So let’s get practical for a moment. What do you do if you’re currently in a dating relationship with an unbeliever? Well, I have heard many people justify that reality by calling it “missionary dating,” where they want to have a strong influence on them.

And honestly, I think people are sincere when they say this, so I’m not doubting the sincerity of that; you want their good in them coming to Jesus Christ. But I would simply challenge you with what I said earlier, actually is your stewardship for your life and what you love

And the direction of your soul. And you need to take seriously what God says about yoking yourself to someone else; they will in some sense be very influential in steering, that’s what the yoke is, in steering where you go. And so if you really want them to come to faith,

And you’re really willing to trust the Lord Jesus for their salvation, then I would challenge you to think long and hard about who you might suggest being placed in their life, who might invest in them with the Gospel that wouldn’t be in a dating relationship

And have alternate elements of the relationship going on. Because what you think might put that person in a better place to come to faith might actually be a hindrance to them coming to faith. And again, I know the stories of missionary dating “working” in the sense of people really coming to faith.

So I am not doubting that the Lord can do that, but your responsibility is not to think about what the Lord can do but what He tells you to do. And then also thinking practically maybe for a different set of people who might be watching this video,

Some people might already be married to an unbeliever, and they maybe have suffered in various ways because of it, and it causes them angst, I just want to say a word of comfort to you, that there’s a reason that 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Peter 3 is in your Bible.

And both of those passages talk about the powerful effect that a believing spouse, particularly a wife actually, in those passages, but the powerful effect a believing spouse living out their faith can have on an unbelieving spouse. And God doesn’t make any explicit promises for your particular situation;

I realize that and I know you feel the pain of that fact, but don’t let the power of those words in any way be undermined. God is pleased as you serve your spouse and as you are faithful to your spouse, by faith in Jesus according to the strength that He provides,

God is pleased with that. And both Paul and Peter are acknowledging that there’s real power behind that. There’s a mysterious power behind that. So be encouraged that your labor is not in vain, and whatever tears you’ve shed about it, or whatever hardships you’ve endured because of it, they’re not in vain.

So let me just end by broadening our perspective to put this thing in its proper place. We need to remember that marriage is a picture of a greater reality. And it is not meant for ultimate life fulfillment. And so that takes the stakes down a bit,

Because marriage is a gift from the Lord; it’s meant to establish a covenant union between two people that displays Jesus’s love for His church, that’s what it’s meant for. And so when we keep that purpose in mind, it helps us put this whole thing in perspective,

Where we don’t get to use dating and marriage for our own purposes alone. So the general instruction that a Christian should not date and marry an unbeliever, it’s not prejudiced, it’s not tribalism. It’s a statement of the purpose of marriage being for something larger than our own earthly satisfaction.

It’s a larger picture; it’s helping each other learn to love God and to do what He says through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. And so we use it for His purposes and not for our own. – [Narrator] Thanks for watching Honest Answers. Don’t forget to subscribe.

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What are the proofs for the resurrection of Jesus?

– The word proofs is a loaded term in philosophy and in many cases people will push back at us for using that in the Christian faith, but the Bible itself, Acts 1:3 says that with many convincing proofs Jesus appeared to his disciples for 40 days after his resurrection.

In fact, the apostles were faced with this accusation that they had actually stolen the body of Jesus. And so as early as the New Testament all the way to this present day there have been attacks on the notion that Jesus was raised from the dead. And through the next almost 2000 years,

If we were to come up to today, there are a series of what we call counter theories to the resurrection. The resurrection of Jesus through the centuries has responded to these counter theories such as, well his body was stolen, or maybe he wasn’t really dead

When he was put in the tomb, and so on, have been responded to powerfully such that I’m convinced today the very best answer is, in fact, rationally, that Jesus was historically raised from the dead. Now some of the actual historical evidences that have been discussed through the centuries

Are that Jesus was really dead. That is to say, there is no question that he just swooned when he was put into the tomb, to Romans knew how to kill you when they crucified you. Two, the fact is that his tomb was empty. The early Christians even lost where the actual tomb is,

We don’t know for sure even where you’re taken as a tourist today is actually where he was buried. Why? Because they didn’t care about it, he was raised from the dead. His enemies would have presented his body were he actually still in the tomb. Three, his disciples believed that they were seeing Jesus

After his resurrection, that is in a post mortem raised state, so much so that they were willing to die for this, this is remarkable. And in fact, they changed, four, their belief system. These early believers were Jewish, and so they began to worship on the first day of the week,

That is Sunday instead of the Sabbath day. They celebrated the Lord’s supper, which is a proclamation of his death, and burial, and resurrection until he comes, and baptism, which was a symbol of buried with him in the likeness of his death and raised in the likeness of his resurrection.

Interestingly enough, the various theories like swoon, or conspiracy, or they lost the body, and so on, only a handful of these are still used today by skeptics and the irony is they fail miserably simply to deal with what now the majority of New Testament scholars, even those

Who are not Christians, agree on those historical facts that I presented. The bottom line is the significance of the resurrection of Jesus is intensely personal. The reason is simply that if he’s not raised from the dead then Christianity is silly, there’s no forgiveness for our sins,

My having lived my life believing that he’s raised from the dead was a waste, I could’ve lived it any other of a number of ways. But if he is raised from the dead, then in fact, the hundreds of millions of people who trusted in him through the centuries

Really do have hope for eternal life. I remember 43 years ago when I was not a Christian, 20 year old pagan, hated Christianity, yet woke up on Easter morning with a bad hangover as a hippy with long hair, God has a sense of humor, it seems, I had been told recently by Christians

That on Easter, that was the day they celebrated Jesus having been raised from the dead. And the fundamental question of life that I was facing, like is there a God and could I be forgiven for the evil that I actually was fully caught up in and was convinced I was guilty of,

Could I be forgiven? I didn’t connect all those dots, but something bothered me that morning, this is the day Jesus rose from the dead. And that’s what makes Christianity so very special, the love of God displayed in the death, burial, resurrection of Jesus for us, has been demonstrated

To be true, and that’s what gives me hope, and it should you, too, if you belong to him. – [Narrator] Thanks for watching. You can submit your questions by email, Twitter, or in the comments section below. And don’t forget to subscribe to find out the answer to next week’s question.

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